If you had asked me what I thought a female led relationship was this time a few months ago, I would have had a completely different answer…
Thinking back, I’m not sure why I had this idea, but I always imagined a female led relationship to be like a scene straight out of a porn video. With a latex clad dominatrix, who’s has nothing better to do than to control my every move 24/7. I’d be her slave ready to answer to her commands at any time. How selfish I was.
Nowadays, my view on female led relationships is much different – much healthier. Thanks to the wonderful guidance from my Priestess, I have learned a great deal about the wonders that come from truly submitting to a dominant woman. Here’s what I’ve learned so far..
- It’s all about what I can do for you – NOT what you can do to me
The whole purpose of a FLR is to make the life of your partner easier and better. You as the submissive need to be there for your partner and do things for them that will make them happy. Do not expect them to do anything for you in return. That’s not the point. Expect plenty of thinking ahead for what would make their life easier. - You need to realise that 99.999% of the time it is not about you
There will be countless hours that you wish that you had attention or reciprocation for your service, but it doesn’t come. You need to realise that being in a FLR is a long lasting commitment, and the fact that you are in a situation where you have the opportunity to be there for your partner to this extent makes you a very lucky person. - You need to trust your partner 110%
If you are going to truly give yourself to your partner, you will need trust that they have your best interests at heart. The moment you start second guessing your partners decisions is the moment that you stop giving all of yourself to them. - Communication. Communication. Communication.
This is possibly one of the biggest make or break aspects of a FLR – or of any relationship in general. If you both aren’t able to completely and honestly communicate with each other about what it is you want out of the relationship, then you are opening yourself up for a high potential for disappointment. You need to make sure you are on the same page about what the expectations are out of the relationship, so that any person doesn’t feel like they aren’t being treated as they would like to be. At the end of the day, it is a relationship between two humans, and you need to make sure you are both being looked after. - Appreciate the gifts.
It is very very easy to look past each of the little gifts you receive from your partner. Especially if you are chaste. The more you think and fantasise about your situation, the more you may find yourself expecting. Don’t fall into this trap, as you will find yourself looking past each little hug, kiss, and every bit of loving attention your partner gives you as it isn’t what you’ve built yourself up to receive in your mind out of horniness. In reality, it’s each of these gifts that your partner is giving you that you are living for, and you are throwing them away. Appreciate them!
I’ve still a long way to go in my learnings about FLR’s, but I couldn’t be happier in my journey so far. Many thanks to my Priestess for putting up with me!